In light of International Women’s Day this week, I thought it was only too fitting to write a little inspirational piece for all those women out there who feel less than confident about doing whatever they want to do. Today’s post is about what I would tell my 16-year-old self today, if I could, to help her understand that everything would turn out okay.
There was a time in my life, where I was told that I was not good enough to get into university. I was told I wouldn’t be successful once I was done with university. There were a number of other hurdles that I had to get past, but looking back now I can see just how much they have helped shape me into the person I am today. So in an attempt to share some advice on how to progress your career, I’ve thought of the five things I would tell my 16-year-old self, if I had the chance to speak to her today:
Crush the anxiety within you
We have all been through it. Wether it’s finding a new, more challenging job, starting a new project, aiming for a promotion, or even picking up a new sport; so many of us have had thoughts like: ‘can I really do this?’ and ‘what if I fail?’
But we all know the answer to these thoughts:
“Oh but my darling, what if you fly?” – Erin Hassan
Never stop yourself from trying something new, just because you are afraid to fail. Sometimes, failure is a natural bi-product of living life. You must simply get up, learn from your mistakes, and try again.
You are the only person who has to believe in you
There were a few times in my life when even those closest to me believed I couldn’t do something. It never stopped me from trying anyway.
You know what they say, anything is possible. But in order to make things possible, you have to believe that they are. Belief is key to reaching your goals, because if you yourself don’t believe that you can do something, then you’ve already lost.
Don’t let other people tell you what you can or cannot do
When I was told I wasn’t good enough to go to university I could have let those words stop me, but I didn’t. I fought hard to get to where I am today. Everyone has blips in self confidence, but no one person should ever crush your dreams and tell you that you are not good enough before you even had the chance to try and reach your goal. You yourself should be the only decision maker when it comes to your own happiness, and only you should decide when it is time to give up.
Life is a marathon, not a sprint
When we want something, we want it immediately. An example would be finding a job after university. The thing to remember, though, is that you shouldn’t rush into finding just any job. You should find the job that you really want and that you know you will enjoy. This job will help you reach your goals, because you will always want to learn more, and develop your skills and your knowledge within whatever field you choose.
You should never choose a job just because it pays more, or because your friends or family tell you to. Your career is something that you should choose for yourself, because you will have to live with it.
You are more capable than you think
This is possibly the most important thing. So many children and teenagers have a lack in self confidence; be it because of teaching, parenting, or bullying experienced in their youth. A lack in self confidence can severely limit an individual’s drive to strive for what they want, because they think they will fail, or because they feel like ‘one of many’ in the competition.
Finding something that you really enjoy, however, is so important to bring out your own self confidence and your capability. More often than not, you are more capable than you think, it simply depends on what you do to bring out that capability that helps develop you in the future.
One little bonus (which I’ve decided not to turn into a sixth point) is the picture below, which I also have hanging on my wall in my bedroom:
Dream as if you’ll live for ever because that way, the sky is the limit for you!
I hope that some of the advice in today’s blog post finds you well, and that there are some takeaways for you to consider and work on in the future.
As always, thank you for reading Coffee Guaranteed. x